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Home | News & Society | Marriage The anger, pain, and shock that will occur after discover one's spouse has broken their vows may seem at first to become a permanent state of living. Remember, by allowing these feelings to control oneself, one is giving one's fraudulent spouse complete power over the situation. One ultimately has to make the decision for oneself whether or not to move or to try to fix what has been broken. It lies in the wronged spouse to be honest with oneself and decide whether or not they can truly forgive such a transgression. Marriage counselors continuously hear, "I have no choice but to save my marriage. We have to stay together for our children." This belief is noble but can do more harm than good. An unhealthy marriage will create an environment of hostility and suspicion that no child will benefit from growing up in. Of course we've all heard the mantra which points to past behavior as the best predictor of future behavior. Some people can change. Others cannot. If one is willing to give one's spouse a second chance, so to speak, it's possible that the marriage can be saved. But they have to be ready to fully grasp this chance and prove themselves trustworthy. If one finds oneself bringing up the injury to oneself over and over again and one simply cannot help oneself from raising painful memories, it is probably much healthier for one to move on from the relationship. If, however, one has resolved to stay in the relationship, be aware of the strength and fortitude it will require to repair the damage that has been done. Many couples find professional counseling helpful in reaching reconciliation. There are also countless websites and online forums dealing with the complex issues that arise in the wake of infidelity. In any case, its important during this time to seek support from close friends who express true empathy for what one is going through. Article Source: http://www.articlewheel.com
Brent Crouch is the owner of BrentCrouch.com and the creator of MarriageEtc.com. He has dedicated this site for those interested in finding Free Information on Marriage Help.
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