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Home | Home & Family | Teenagers Parenting techniques are important because cases involving child abuse or neglect can often result from parents who "go too far" when they are trying to discipline their children. Once parents learn a few parenting techniques, there will be no need to load them into the car and drive them to a distant professional. Children are so quick to model the behaviour of their parents. They will not do what the parent says, but they will do what the parents have modelled. Children model the behaviours that the parent has presented to them time and time again. One effective technique is to catch the child unawares by acting in a totally unexpected way. This has the added advantage of reducing anger or tension and can often result in spontaneous laughter which is always great for defusing a situation. The key is to use natural consequences for their behaviour rather than punishment. This forces the child to get out of a tight corner by thinking about what they have done.By doing this, you remove any possible comeback about unfair punishments and you just simply apply the consequences. In this way, you do not have to bother with telling the child what problems he or she has created nor do you have to think up a punishment on the spot. The importance of involving ALL the family for setting the ground rules should not be underestimated. The parents' role will be to enforce the consequences rather than punishing. These are FAMILY rules, not rules set by the parents. The child's reaction then will not be directed at the parents as they know that the rule of law is the family. Some child therapists advocate guerrilla parenting techniques where you respond to your children in ways totally different than what they expect, mentioned above. If a child is fighting with a sibling, perhaps that child has to do his siblings chores the next day to make up for his negative actions, instead of being sent to his room. It is the certainty of a consequence coming that has impact with children. Making children feel they are wrong, belittling them and/or putting them down is NOT an example of guerrilla parenting techniques. Try giving your child a tisue when he or she is acting in a really snotty way. There is no need to say anything - just let him or her figure it out. You know when a child repeatedly says 'That's stupid'. If this gets on your nerves, you can do something very strange like walking backwards and say 'This is stupid'. Again,there is no need to explain your action.- the child will be taken aback. If you would like to learn more about parenting techniques used by a doctor with his own family, the site listed below will be an enormous help to you. This doctor had two children with ADHD and through his parenting techniques, he was able to make them into happy, good children. Article Source: http://www.articlewheel.com
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