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Social host liability laws are now nationwide and the adults that let illegal teen drinking occur are going to make for some painful situations for their teens and their family. Furthermore, the adults don't have to be home to be held liable. Each community may have its own laws about who is going to be held accountable for underage drinking. Jail time, fines, community service, and plenty of embarrassment are a few of the consequences but the real consequence comes when there is some accident or assault that occurs. The consequences of the latter last a lifetime. "All states now have zero tolerance laws for people under 21 - which means, when you get behind the wheel you are breaking the law for ANY level of alcohol in your body." If you're the kind of parent that likes to tie one on once in a while and don't see any harm in letting young adults experience the joys of booze then you need a little reality check. Teens are dying at an alarming rate behind the wheel after a few drinks. But they don't suffer the consequences alone. They usually take a victim or two with them. This isn't moral preaching here, this is fact. You let your kids drink and the chances of someone getting hurt go up dramatically. Could be a drunk-driving incident, could be alcohol abuse, could be sexual assault, and the list of wonderful side effects of being a little over-permissive go on and on. Do yourself a favor and check your local laws about social hosting (providing the place for underage drinking and/or the alcohol) and make sure you and your children's friend's parents are aware of their legal and moral responsibility. Here are a few things you can do as a parent when your child is going to someone else's house for a party or just a little hang time. 1. ASK YOUR KIDS QUESTIONS. Who is going to be there? Where are the parents? Is this a boy/girl situation? What's the occasion? Will there be drinking or drugging there? (That last one is a bit blunt but it's a good idea to teach your kids how to be direct and blunt too!) 2. CALL THE OTHER PARENTS. Yeah, you're going to be appreciated and rejected at the same time. Other parents may not appreciate the fact that you would question them about this while other parents will be very appreciative of your inquiry. 3. SAY NO. If you have any suspicions that something is amiss, it probably is. If you don't get a straight answer out of your kid or the other parents then say "No, it ain't happenin' junior!" Then, find an alternative and sponsor it yourself. "You can't go to the party but I'll be glad to give you and three of your friends tickets to the movies, bowling, roller skating, etc." Offer to make a big batch of their favorite snacks and rent a few movies at your house. Get creative but get real. Saying "no" doesn't get any easier as your teenager becomes more and more independent. When your kids accuse you of not trusting them, let them know it is not a matter of trust when it comes to the power of drugs and alcohol, it's a matter of facts. People do stupid things under the influence and as a parent you know the facts. Even though you may trust your child, you cannot trust people you don't know or the persuasive power of "group think" when there's other influences like peer pressure and booze pressure. By the way, parents also face an awful lot of peer pressure. They want to be "cool parents" for their kids and they don't want to be the "prudes" down the street. 4. SAY YES. If you feel things are safe then say yes. And, let your child know there are times when she has to call you and check in regardless of what the event is. Good times to check in are when they arrive, just before they leave to come home, just before bedtime (if a sleepover), etc. If they forget to call then you call them. If they don't answer their cell phone you might be a little suspicious. Make it a rule that they need to answer their phone when you call. Or, if they're in a movie theater and can't they must call back in short order. If your kids get a little paranoid that you're checking up on them then that's not a bad thing. Keep talking to other parents and make sure you let those who call you know how much you appreciate their concern. Make a pact with other parents whenever you can to check in with each other and compare notes. 5. PREPARE FOR SCREW UPS. If you or your child makes a mistake and he ends up getting drunk or high and he's got the keys to the car, everyone is in danger. Start repeating this over and over to your teen. No matter when, where, or under what circumstances it happens, if you make a mistake and get into a situation where there are drugs or drinking, your parents will always come and get you anytime, anywhere with no questions asked. If she is in a situation where there is drinking going on and she wants to come home but doesn't know what to do, give her a code she can use on the phone. She can call you and pretend to have an argument about why she should not come home. That way she can save face with her friends and maybe her life. Say this over and over because it could save some serious heartache. If you make a habit of asking questions of your kids and their friend's parents your kids may begin to wonder if you have eyes in the back of your head. They may be surprised to find out that you heard about so-and-so getting into trouble at the last party because your kids certainly weren't going to share that with you. Being in-the-know is good for you and good for your kids. Remember, your job is to keep your kids away from booze and drugs as long as possible. Studies have proven that the longer your child avoids alcohol and drugs the better chance they have of living a life free of its many painful consequences. Article Source: http://www.articlewheel.com
He's a freelancing kind of guy in Carlsbad, CA. His number is (760) 804-6271 and you can email him through his blog at www.TurnaroundParenting.com .
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