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Listening happens at 3 levels: Active Conversational Superficial The bottom level, Superficial, is what we do when we're hearing but not listening. We might have a conversation at a party trying to take an interest in what another guest is saying but really having our attention elsewhere, perhaps on some other conversation we suspect would be far more interesting. The problem is that we are only hearing what the other guest is saying, not listening, so we often get confused, lose track of the conversation or end up having to ask them to repeat what they just said. This would be extremely damaging in a coaching conversation. If we're only hearing superficially because our mind is elsewhere, it will be reflected in our body language and the person being coached will know immediately. This will dismantle any trust that has been built up and lessen the chances that the coaching will produce a useful outcome. The second level, conversational, is the type of listening that we do throughout the day. In conversational listening, we listen while our partners talk and vice versa. However the danger here is that while the other person is talking, we are concentrating on making our next point, rather than truly focusing on what the other person is saying. This is not an easy thing to do when we start out as coaches. When you're not used to this approach, it can be hard to keep the questions flowing. It's usually better to wait until the person has finished speaking and then decide upon the next question. We should also avoid the habit of finsihing other people's sentences for them. Only rarely do we pick the words they would have chosen themselves and we end up jarring their flow and causing hesitation or confusion. So we need to work hard to reach the top level, Active Listening. Put simply active listening is about clearing our minds of all other distractions and really tuning in to what the other person is saying with as much focus as we can muster. This is easier said than done and takes a lot of time and practise to develop but is well worth the effort. On a practical level it means we should try not to coach when we're in a hurry or preoccupied with something else. Neither should we run a coaching session in a noisy environment or one that is likely to get to hot or too cold. In such circumstances it is imposssible to actively listen. Article Source: http://www.articlewheel.com
Matt Somers is a leading voice on coaching in the UK where he writes, presents, trains and consults on all aspects of Coaching at Work. An author and regular conference speaker, he is currently producing a range of resources to help with the people side of working life. His popular mini-guide "Coaching for an Easier Life" is available FREE at www.mattsomers.com
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