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Home | News & Society | Relationships Getting your ex back may not be the easiest or most simple thing in the world, but it's a lot easier if you look at it in terms of "chunks" or steps. The division isn't perfect, as some chunks are bigger than others, but if you take it one step at a time, you have a good chance of getting your ex back. Step 1: I know that after a breakup it's almost standard impulse to want to chase down your ex and plead with him/her to give things another chance. That's really about the LAST thing you want to do straight away. Your ex doesn't want to talk right now, give him/her some space. You'll get the chance to talk later. Step 2: Take advantage of the downtime to work on the things you did or didn't do that contributed to the breakup. Every couple has flaws equally divided, but the person who gets broken up with usually has more. These things have to be addressed and dealt with, or else you can't expect anything better from new relationships than the fate of the old one. Make the necessary changes. Yeah, this is the main chunk that's bigger than the others, but it's important. Step 3: By the time you've made a lot of progress on your mistakes, it'll probably be an okay time to re-establish contact with your ex. Keep in mind that this is still a fragile time, so keep it very light and simple. Just a phone call or an email saying "hey, how have you been?" is sufficient. It opens up an avenue of contact, and expresses that you DO care about how they've been handling the breakup. Step 4: After building up contact very slowly and nonaggressively, the two of you are probably going to start spending time with each other again. Use this time to do things together that both of you always really enjoyed. It helps to bring back fond memories and rekindle old feelings. Also let your ex see the effects of the changes you've been making, impressing him/her could work to your advantage as well. Step 5: Chances are your ex just won't be ready for another try, but if it turns out that you two DO get back together, your chief job becomes not to screw it up again. A broken relationship, even one that's been mended, is still fragile. You have to work really hard to not make the same mistakes again, and make sure your partner's being taken care of. So always remember that sacrifice and compromise is a massive part of any well-running relationship. Both people have needs that must be met, and YOU are concerned with your PARTNER's. Neglecting what your partner needs is the fastest and most efficient way to make that partner into an ex...possibly, for good. Article Source: http://www.articlewheel.com
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